10 Therefore remove sorrow from your heart, and put away evil from your flesh, for childhood and youth are vanity.
Today’s Inspiration: Whatever anxiety you may have this morning, banish them from your heart and cast of all your troubles of your body to the Lord. Ecclesiastes 11:10, 1 Peter 5:7. Fear and anxiety goes hand in hand. Fear causes us to hide when things go wrong like Adam and Eve when they rebel against God’s instruction in Genesis 3:8. The root of their rebellion is fear and covetousness. Not to covet Covetousness is the tenth commandment of the Lord. When they are enticed to rebellion, they hide instead of owning up. Fear leads to anxiety which eats into our digestive system causing ill health. King Solomon at the end of his life realised his folly and advised us to fear God as this is the whole duty of man. For God will bring every of our thought, word, attitude and behaviour and deed into judgement including every hidden thing whether it is good or evil. Ecclesiastes 12:13-14.
Unfortunately many are arrested in spiritual development especially in Asian families. They have no growing up years as full dependency were upon parents even through adult years some as much as 60 years old. We must be nurtured allowing independence with supervision which is God’s way.
Why were Daniel, Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego so loyal to God even up to the point of death sentence? This is because of the well nurturing through the word of God. They grow up to be strong and self confident in Daniel 3:19-29 and 6. Strangely we are as loyal to our dysfunctional home as the Hebrew children are loyal to Jehovah. We hang onto our pain willing even to face death rather than change.
Wounds make us unteachable, unable to trust and afraid of truth. Childhood trauma hinders our ability to develop genuine healthy relationships with the Creator and others. All hurting events need to be addressed and reactions disposed to reach healthy spiritual development and bring us to maturity. We will address a couple of common reactions of life in our next workshop.
We must take steps to stop our arrested development and move on to full maturity. If we are willing to let God tear down our walls of our childhood wounds and allow Him to help us to change, we are on the road to maturity. Biblically we are to be developed, trained and nurtured to become valuable additions to our community. The years from birth to age 13 are considered the age for directives for a young person raised in Jewish tradition. During this period the parents and the extended family teach the child responsibility, accountability and respect and a faith based foundation. This upbringing moves the child into adolescence at the age of 13 because it is at this age that the child moves into the age of decision. He or she is supposed to be responsible for building relationships and take responsibility of his or her actions. Unfortunately this is not so with Asian families. Parents over protect their children and solve problems for their children and hence they are unable to handle conflicts in life during adulthood. They are unable to communicate and clarify their statement causing perceptions which God considers as sins. Psalm 19:13. Allowing them to handle their independence without guidance is also inappropriate.
Reaction to Childhood wounds at adult age have led to many broken marriages and its time they know the truth that they can be redeemed and be free. John 8:32.
Therefore be imitators of God as dearly loved childre